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Quick update!

It has been over a month since I’ve found the time to sit down and write.  I miss writing, it is so therapeutic to me!  We’ve been very busy with wedding planning, it consumed us for quite awhile.  I’m happy to say though that I am married to the man of my dreams now!  All the hard work was completely worth it.  Our day was truly magical and I cannot believe it is already past!  Kevin and I just returned from our honeymoon this week.  We had an amazing time together, just the two of us for the week.  While we were on our Honeymoon, CBS reported our story about war related infertility.  We’ve known from the beginning of our relationship that have children would be difficult for the two of us; that we would be facing trying times to create the family of our dreams.  In case you haven’t read it before, we will have to do IVF with ICSI in order to have children.  We’ve been working with CBS News to try and get our story out for awhile now.  They are helping us get the word that even though the reason for the infertility is directly related to the injuries he suffered, we have no support through the VA or Tricare to help cover the very expensive cost.  There is currently a bill sitting in Congress to reverse the law that prevents the VA from covering these treatments so now was the best time to share our story.  If you haven’t seen the news story, I’ll post the link below so you can!

Now, Kevin and I are waiting until we are ready to start the IVF process.  We will pick a time that feels perfect for us, when we are ready to go down the journey we’ve only just begun.  We’ve found a ton of supporters along the way.  I am so thankful for all of them.  We’ve also found some, but fewer than the supporters, who say we are “nit picking” or we should “adopt because there are thousands of children who need a home and it selfish to want your own children”.  Those comments were very difficult to deal with at first, actually sometimes they still get under my skin.  Of course I feel terrible for all the children who do need a home and my heart is open to adoption one day but we want our chance to have our own too.  I want to look at my children and see the things that I love the most about Kevin in our children.  We deserve that chance. I cannot simply make the desire to carry my own child go away.  It is obvious that the people who say this do not understand the cost of adoption either.  It cost the same if not more to than our fertility treatments. Further more, why do people think it is okay to say something like to someone who is dealing with infertility?  You wouldn’t tell a person who got pregnant on their own that they are selfish, or maybe they would, who knows.  Either way, Kevin and I are excited for our chance to try and have our own children.  We are excited to hopefully make a difference for all those suffering with infertility who have to dig deep into their pockets to find the money to cover it.  We want to help everyone we can, this is a new world to us but it is a world that deserves attention.

CBS Story

Click the above link for the CBS story!

11800591_1155016661180828_4511803792856909343_nThe new Mr. & Mrs!

2 thoughts on “Quick update!

  1. Congratulations on your wedding and on being able to reach so many people by sharing your story with CBS News! I am glad that you have found so much support, though I’m sorry about the insensitive comments you’ve gotten. I guarantee that almost everyone who says it is selfish to do infertility treatments over adoption never thought twice about having their own biological child! Personally, it baffles me why they seem to think there is a difference… no one person has more of a right to have a biological child than anyone else.

    Anyway, enjoy married life and good luck starting your IVF journey when the timing is right. 🙂


  2. Congratulations on your marriage!!! I hope your day was truly fabulous and the honeymoon truly relaxing!

    I read the CBS news article from Resolve’s facebook Post. I was infuriated by it and told my family as I read it that this is the second person I have heard this happen to!! Not realising the article was about you 🙂 I read all the facebook comments that went with it, and noticed you had both replied to some of them. I was a little infuriated at some people’s naive comments. Especially as it was from Resolve’s link to the CBS page. I hope you were not hurt by any this small number of small minded people. You are doing a great thing, this law is madness and needs to be changed.

    As for people saying ‘just adopt’, I’m sorry you have had to put up with these type of comments. But you are so right, they just don’t understand what adoption entails financially. Our immediate retort to this type of comment now is: “sure we’d love to, have you got $20-50k we can borrow??”

    I’m excited for you guys to start your IVF journey now, and excited too that CBS are helping with your story and you are promoting the change so badly needed 🙂


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